IS TOUGH LOVE, LOVE?
Concerning; Personal Relationships, not social nor political threats to our community.
[This article concerns interpersonal relationships. While One Free Press is often critical of persons whom we feel are threats to democracy, liberty, and peace; these are not our daily personal relationships. ]
IS TOUGH LOVE AN ACT TO HELP, AND NOT ENABLE A PERSONS FAILURES
We, as individuals, form our own personal philosophies. How we are going to approach others, situations, challenges, and interactions. We put this puzzle together from culture, family, friendships, experience, and sometimes with our religion as primary or partial guide.
Sometimes we have set statements, quotes, or pop culture wisdom that lead us more so than the other formative influences I’ve mentioned.
For instance; “tough love”. When we feel others have failed us, and are failing in their life, we use “tough love”. In lieu of what we know as compassion, love, and family. Jesus was a master teacher on those who fail at life, and who fail others. His reaction was love, compassion, and a miraculous empathy. Jesus demonstrated anger, as a lesson, toward those who strayed from how his father or his house should be represented.
POP QUOTES TO LIVE BY? (From: 43 Good Cultural…Taglines)
Culture of the mind must be subservient to the heart.
Culture: the cry of men in face of their destiny.
Different roads sometimes lead to the same castle.
Diversity creates dimension in the world.
How can you govern a country which has 246 varieties of cheese?
In this country we have no place for hyphenated Americans.
It is never too late to give up your prejudices.
Let America be America, where equality is in the air we breathe. Recognize yourself in he and she who are not like you and me.
Strength lies in differences, not in similarities.
The highest possible stage in moral culture is when we recognize that we ought to control our thoughts.
The peoples of the earth are one family.
The terrible tyranny of the majority.
“How many times should you forgive your brother?”, he ask. No tough love here. I think our weakness, weariness, of facing the same emotional and personal challenges over and over, cause us to look for escape. That escape may be “tough love”, severing our connection with individuals and the emotional pain. But; “it’s for their own good, how else will they learn until they hit rock bottom. I don’t want to be an enabler.”
Jesus didn’t want people to hit rock bottom, he put out his hand and lifted them up from his everlasting spring of love and compassion. “Seven times seventy.”
You may have to use wisdom, enforce boundaries, offer alternatives, but giving up on someone is not necessary, nor is it Jesus. Lean on the everlasting spring of compassion and love from Jesus, from his example. Let his teachings permeate your 21st Century life. As will his spirit. Deeply examine and cross-examine what you really believe, and who you really are in the eyes of others.
Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. ( 1 Cor. 13:8, NIV)
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By James Kirk-Wiggins, March 18, 2018
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